When we are uncomfortable, in any form, we look for solutions, solutions for ourselves, solutions for others, to end the discomfort and to move onto.…well…where are we trying to get to? But to look for solutions we often miss the process of exploration. To look for solutions signifies we want to be done, something we are not content being-with. There is flow, there are next steps, but they are not solutions, just ways of flowing with an unfolding process.
We do this habitually, we like to fix and feel capable. But often there is a lack of patience, humility or compassion when we rush the process, both for ourselves and others. Rather, there can be ways of exploring the dynamic at hand, ways of seeing, trying things on, means of finding perspectives that may be useful. And we can try things on by asking ourselves, ‘…what would happen if…” and see what learning and growth presents itself. ‘What would happen if I spoke up…if I do nothing…if I take control of the situation…if I react and see where that takes me…if I say ‘no’… if I ask for help….if I hold a sense of compassion….if I take a step back and view the many ways I have tried things…” When a learning and growth process is complete, we know, something shifts, either in ourselves or the environment and dynamic at hand. We are then, co-participants of forces in play that are larger than ourselves, or perhaps you could say that we are co-creators with our higher selves-the selves that are guiding us. Funny too…because once a process is done, and a shift occurs, we can have the tendency to hold on, to look back, to replay it over and over again, and be unwilling to let go of what we were seeking solutions for. And this is the flip side of wanting to be done with things. So where once we wanted things to be complete and discomfort to end…we then keep our foot in the learning dynamic that begs completion out of fear of moving onto the next phase or opportunity for learning, for flow. In this case, it could be due to lack of integration or understanding, or compassion, forgiveness, fear or shame. It’s all just experience, an invitation for learning, we enter some experience to learn and grow, we learn what is possible, seek help and guidance, and at some point, it’s enough, and we move on, taking into ourselves the insights and experience gained, and apply it to the next, or place it aside until it can be put to use, to support others, to offer compassion, or to build upon for ourselves. So solutions, are not a bad thing, things can get ‘fixed’ but a sense of urgency often indicates fear of an important process that needs our compassionate observation and attention. When I think of those who I feel most supported by and comfortable with, they are the ones who hold, who guide, who are patient, who listen, and perhaps highlight what is true or make a small suggestion of a next step to take, to keep flowing with a process. No urgency, just seeing things as is, without judgment, respecting the path I chose to flow with…with love.
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And When Everything Stopped…
An acquaintance asked me to complete her sentence the other day, and without missing a, excuse this mild pun, beat, I responded… ...And when everything stopped, I continued dancing, because that is how the light moves through. Where music ends and I begin becomes a single continuous thread, no end and no beginning. They move together to create the sound and light we travel upon. One movement, one beat, reverberates into you and back through me, and joy becomes what we feel and see. With no separation, an invitation to give yourself up to the rhythm of the moment, and I feel what you play and you hear how I move and that is how the universe flows. It ripples, through you, to me, and back again. The unstuck cord with no end, and no beginning. So when everything stopped, and there was a pause in the beat, I heard the echo... ...and continued dancing. So I invite you....when everything stopped, I continued... |
AuthorAs a person who is highly interested in the inner landscape through interaction with the external, I find it invaluable to express these experiences. Here, a collection of musings; experiments, potential truths, and ultimately, my unique pathway of creative learning and growth. Blog and website edited by scholar, literary enthusiast, horticulturist and friend Peter Dryden.
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